I came across this post from Well Watered Women on Instagram and have just enjoyed it so much this past week:
"One reason we are so harried and hurried is that we make yesterday and tomorrow
our business, when all that legitimately concerns us is today.
If we really have too much to do, there are some items
on the agenda which God did not put there.
Let us submit the list to Him and ask Him to indicate which items we must delete.
There is always time to do the will of God.
If we are too busy to do that, we are too busy."
~ Elisabeth Elliot ~
Last week, I said no to two commitments - one short term and one longer term. I also canceled something off our calendar for this week. Sometimes we need to say yes, but sometimes we also need to say no.
Saying no brought relief to my heart and that is something I've struggled with over the years. I like to say yes so that I don't disappoint anyone. But in both of these cases, I honestly think that saying no did not disappoint anyone - I think that those around me understand and there may even be a twinge of understanding and desire to say no to something too.
If slow and quiet are what I know my heart needs, I will have to say no to things to allow space for that. As a wise friend pointed out, there are some things only I can do - only I can be David's wife and be a mom to my children, only I can invest in my relationship with God. But in other areas - there can be things that someone else could do or God will provide for in an another way.
It is also important, I believe, to consider our own personalities, giftings and what lights us up inside. What are the things in life that I want to make sure to have time for? Writing, beauty making, homey things, rest and slow and memory making. If I fill my schedule with things that drain, when am I refilled? We probably all have at least something that drains us in life just because not everything in life is fun or beautiful, but not letting those draining things rule my time and contrasting them with the soul-filling kind of things will be key to not feeling like we are running on empty.
On my podcast with Crystal, I mentioned making a list of your commitments and seeing if there was even one small change you could make that would be a blessing. How could you make that one change a habit or commitment and then build on that to incorporate some margin into your life?
What would it take for you to feel some relief in your schedule? Is there any way you could make a step towards that extra margin and white space this week?