Tuesday, October 09, 2012
Days of Beauty: When it is Not Valued
Sometimes, even the little hearts that I've invested so much into hoping they will appreciate beauty just don't get it. I know, they are children. I know, they have fun things to play and imaginations to make reality. I'm also saying - sometimes it just plain hurts when others don't get what we are passionate about. Ok, what I am passionate about.
I'm reminded of a late summer afternoon when I was hoping to provide some clean up motivation. Clean up is a very difficult task that basically never ends around here and my helpers are not always willing or cooperative. Anyway, in a beauty-loving effort, I rallied the troops with the enticement of a fresh baked peanut butter brownie tea party, game and art time together if they would get the clean up done.
I was getting giddy and excited just thinking about what a sweet time we were going to have together and what fun memories we would make. But, they did not clean up. I presented my idea again with a cheerful voice and hoped they could hear how much I wanted them to make this happen so we could enjoy this together!
The second time did not work either, and we never had the warm brownies with milk tea party, game and craft. I was so sad and disappointed. I was disappointed that they did not care. Disappointed that they did not value my idea enough to want to enjoy it together. Disappointed and discouraged.
I made my own beauty and curled up with an inspiring read. But, this reminded me that beauty can be misunderstood, under valued and even ignored. These thoughts towards beauty hurt me because I love and value it so much - but I have to remind myself that not everyone does.
My children were not out to see how hurtful they could be. They were being children, dilly dallying and playing and not wanting to clean up. The same is likely true of others as well, if I feel like they don't value beauty as much as I do - perhaps they don't. We're not all wired the same and that's ok. And, I think it is also ok that I do value beauty and do value the effort put into it. I think it is ok that it may hurt my feelings if beauty isn't valued as long as I don't dwell on that or let it bring me down.
This is the risky part of sharing those deep parts of ourselves. We may be misunderstood. We may be dismissed. But, it strikes me as pure beauty when we stand in the face of that and continue to enjoy and be passionate about those things that make us tick.
Photos: Other beauty not always valued as seen on a recent trip to the Botanical Gardens.