Tuesday, October 23, 2012
Days of Beauty: What is Slow Day?
Yesterday I presented my case for Slow Day - but I haven't really touched on what it is. Here we go!
As this idea was forming this summer, the words slow day were in my mind and the idea began as this: a day we could stay home and have no outside commitments. A day we were able to slow each week.
When thinking along these lines, the natural next thought is ok, when would I do that and what day would be good for that. Honestly, I got stuck here already. I really didn't want Monday or Friday to be our slow day because they were on the edge of the weekend and I was afraid we'd lose our rhythm. Tuesday was out because we have our CC group that day. Thursday was ballet and soccer and Wednesday is Children's Choir at church.
Oh boy. Yes, we need Slow Day - but how to fit in in?! Ahem.
I began to talk to my Mom about all of this - we were at their house for our summer visit and I needed to process and figure this out. It bothered and embarrassed me that I could not figure out when to fit a slow day in. We started talking through our schedule and my Mom wisely suggested Wednesday.
It is in the middle of the week - perfect! It is the day after CC - needed! David does take our children to choir at church, but I stay home. I was initially trying really hard to make it a day we don't need to go anywhere - but my wonderful Mom helped me see that this really could work and be a good solution.
We decided on Wednesday. Ok, so now the day is figured out, but what does slow day really look like?
My next thoughts were that my production could not cease on slow day for that would just leave me feeling behind other days and I would struggle to keep this routine because it was setting me up for failure.
So the first important note about what Slow Day is would be that it is not a ceasing of work. We still have school, I still do laundry. Our basic routine is the same as any other day.
Slow Day is a call to slow. It is a day to regroup and pull in. It's a day I can say yes to other things like taking a walk, picnics, making breakfast special, playing a game and longer reading times. It is a day we get out and enjoy nature, a day for tea parties and yes, making lunch special too!
I usually try to listen the other days and have at least one idea ready for slow day each week. They might mention a game - ok, we'll play a game. Or, I might decide to bake - perfect for a tea party. I don't try to create extra work for myself but try to see how I can use what is available.
I've tried to make Wednesday our day to have a hot breakfast and lunch - something out of the usual cereal, cheese and crackers fare that my children love.
Ok, so Slow Day is slowing down enough to say yes, choosing to stay home, a big white space of open bliss on the calendar. Now, how do we make this work in our home?