This post was not planned as part of my series, but just as I was finishing this up I got an e-mail from a mom whose daughter is struggling with her desire to be married and all the what if and when and how and who questions that can be so troubling.
Oh, my heart goes out. I have so been there. I wish I could grab this gal by the hands and look deep into her eyes and heart and give her a hug and take her out for a cup of tea and listen to her pour out her heart and pray with her.
Something lit in me when I read her e-mail, I wanted to do something, to offer something. Maybe God is showing me a ministry opportunity for someday.
How will I meet him? Where will I meet him? Will I meet him? Am I pretty? Will he think so? What if God doesn't want me to get married?
All I ever wanted was to be a wife and a mom. And, there were a number of years where that reality looked far off and dim. There were some who made fun of this desire. And, the first question I always got when people found this out about me was, "Oh, are you dating someone?" Painfully, I had to admit I was not and I hadn't been and there weren't really any prospects at the moment.
People don't know what to say sometimes and they ask things that hurt and say things that hurt and offer shallow suggestions.
It probably seems trite coming from someone who is on the other side now, who has had her dream become a reality - to even want to hold out hope to these who are coming behind me. How can I really encourage them when I don't have the answers for their lives?
I don't know what God holds for each one. I don't know how, when, where, who. I can't offer that kind of information or insight.
Sort of thinking "out loud" here - but I can offer friendship. I can offer understanding. I can offer to pray and be there and be available and I can promise to treat their dreams with tenderness and respect and hope. I can share my heart and we can look together at God's heart and pray through together.
If you can remember being in this season or are currently in this season - how can we come alongside you? How can we encourage you? When presented with the opportunity to invest our time - how should we to be of the most help and blessing to our sisters and those around us?