"How do you do it?"
I've been thinking about this recently. And, over the past months have realized that we all do things that others wonder how we get done.
First of all, I think that we all just do what we have to do. Each family has a slightly differing set of circumstances that set what must be done. How many children are in the family, work schedules, childrens ages, how those children are educated, and on and on.
None of us really fully knows the whole picture of someone else's life unless we are living it! We know what we can see, but not necessarily the entire picture.
I don't know how I did it when I had a just-turned three year old, one who was 18 months and a newborn. But, I did. Because I had to.
Another thought: There are a lot of things I don't do. And, things that I do that my friends don't do and so on. When we look at someone else and wonder how they do it - I wonder if we are thinking how we would add something like that to what we are already doing? But, is there something that we are doing that she isn't? Plus, how do her circumstances impact that? (as mentioned above)
Here are some things I don't do:
* Attend a Bible Study
* Teach Sunday School
* Schedule lots of play dates.
* Help with AWANA
* Belong to the church choir or a book club or anything that meets in the evening.
* Drive my children to school.
* Work outside the home.
See what I mean? You probably have your own list of things you don't do that looks a lot different than mine. There is nothing wrong with any of the above things, this is just my current list of things that I am not doing which means I have that time allocated differently.
One last thought: We will make time for the things most important to us. This question (how do you do it?) is usually directed at me regarding all of my creative projects. Crafting, sewing, having a garden, doing special things, making things pretty, making my own things, etc...
First of all, if I did not enjoy those things - I would have very little motivation to find time for those things. But, I do enjoy those things: they energize me and inspire me and refresh me. So, they are important to include in my time.
I relax on other things to make time for the things that energize me. And, it does not mean that I have hours a day to do crafty things. The goal is balance.
Here's an example: I love planning fun birthday parties for my children. Shocking, I know. I have a friend who admits to not enjoying the planning of a birthday party. When we talk about this I always say - then don't do it! If it is not fun, energizing, or beneficial to you and your family - don't! If I didn't enjoy it, I would not do it to the extent that I do either.
What is important to you and your family?
Most importantly, what is it that God wants us to be doing? For each family, this is going to have a different look and feel since our lives are going to differ in so many ways (as mentioned at the beginning.) As I frequently tell my girls - we can't control if someone else is doing what is right, but we can make sure we are doing what is right.
How do I do it? How do you do it?
We do what God has given us to do, the best we can (with His strength and to His glory) and we trust Him to guide us individually in how we manage and fill our time!
Philippians 4:13, "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength."