First, I revisited a couple of previous posts on gentleness here and here. Just reading those thoughts was helpful! And, created a quietness in my heart that I long to have there all the time!
Recently, I've been thinking more about gentleness and how I treat my family and come across to them. Are the words I say dripping with gentleness or is there an edge to my voice that betrays my true struggle and frustration?
I've been thinking about gentleness in regard to the way I dress, the meals I fix for my family, my attitude and my home.
One Saturday afternoon, I watched Miss Potter and found myself stirred to choose gentleness. Her portrayal in the movie is one of gentleness ~ it is not that she is always soft spoken, but I sensed a gentleness in her manor.
I admired the charming home she chose in the Lake District and began to imagine what a life there would have been like. Then, I brought myself back to reality and tried to imagine how to create a life like that where I am right now. I love solitude and find it refreshing ~ there is something about her life in the country that beckons me. It has a gentleness surrounding it that often our lives today are lacking.
But, I can choose gentleness and I can pursue it no matter where I live or what time in history. Immediately after that, I got up off the couch and began to pursue this. I was still in my pj's ~ so that was my first step, I changed into something comfortable that made me feel gentle and feminine. With my dress on, I fixed my hair and put on some makeup and jewelry. These things are not necessary to gentleness, but I find they make such a difference to me.
When I am dressed in a way that makes me feel ladylike and feminine, it seems easier to pursue gentleness and allow it to permeate me. It makes me want to prepare special food for my family and make everyday moments beautiful.
That night I made cinnamon rolls for our Sunday morning breakfast the next day. It was such a pleasure to feel a spirit of gentleness inside and out allowing me to make choices for my family that were motivated by this attitude of gentleness.
My words were kinder, heart was happier, I was at peace. I know that it is more than just dressing the part - but I found that night, and have found multiple times, that what I wear is such a reflection on my attitude, my heart. When I feel ladylike, it really goes a long way in helping me feel gentleness and respond to that.
I guess these thoughts are two-fold: being a lady and living that out with gentleness in my home. In my heart and life, they are tied hand in hand.
Colossians 3:12, "Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience."Does your dress affect your gentleness or lack of it?