Monday, November 24, 2008

The "c" word...

A new word has found its way into our family conversations. One that I'm not accepting very well and one that we certainly did not invite.

Cancer.

My dad has been very recently diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer. I hate this. I hate what it means and all the what ifs it brings to my mind.

I am thankful for providential doctor's appointments and that we already have a trip planned at Christmas! But, my heart is heavy with this news, although he has a great attitude about it that I would be wise to follow.

I don't really have much else on my heart to share right now about this, but it feels good to at least share this much. I confess that it is all so new - so unknown. I am so thankful that I can trust Who holds the future and who will be with us through our entire life journeys. When God brings our family to mind, we would appreciate your prayer. Thank you.
"You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you."
~ Isaiah 26:3

103 comments:

Joy @ SAH Missionary said...

Oh Monica,
My eyes are welling up with tears. I'm so sorry. I will be praying, praying, praying for you and your dad. I will pray that He will wrap you and your entire family in His everlasting arms, and that you will experience Him as never before.
Blessings, sweet friend.
Joy

Jenn said...

(((Monica))),
I'm so sorry to hear what your dad is going through, and what you are dealing with as his daughter. I will keep your dad and you in my prayers. I pray that our heavenly Father will keep your dad close to His heart and that His peace, which transcends all understanding will be yours, as you remember that He is in control and nothing takes Him by surprise.

Hugs,
Jenn

Mary Ann said...

Monica,

Like Joy, I feel so very very sad for you. My prayer for you and your family is that the peace of Christ will reign in your hearts and minds and that you will feel His arms of love around you.

For your dad and mom , I pray for wisdom as they explore his options and make the necessary decisions.

Hugs and prayers are being sent your way this morning!

Grace said...

Oh Monica how I wish I could take this nasty word and throw it to the deepest pit to be forever forgotten. My heart, thoughts and prayers are with you as you and your family make this journey.

Amity said...

Monica,

I am so sorry to hear of the news about your father. I'll be keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Christi said...

Monica, bless your heart! My dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer at the end of the summer. I share your heavy heart, and will be praying for you and your family.

April said...

Monica, i am sorry for your news and empathize with you. My sister passed on of cancer a year and a half ago and it is still fresh at times. My prayers are with you.

Edi said...

Sorry to hear about your dad. A hard issue to deal with...

One thing - don't assume the prognosis is set in stone. A few yrs ago my dad's cancer returned and he was diagnosed as Stage IV. I began reading info on it. Everything I read made it look like he had MONTHS.

Well here it is 3 yrs later with NO EVIDENCE of his cancer. We do realize the tenuous position he is in and that it can return at any time - but we are thankful for the additional years the Lord has given him/us.

Becky Smith said...

A month and two weeks ago my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. Things were fine one day, the next day I get a phone call that something was "suspicious" and that phone call threw our family into the cancer journey-learning words and procedures that I'd rather not know about.

Cancer stinks, that's what it boils down to. There is such good medicine and tests that can be done now to treat cancer as aggressively as possibly. And cling to the fact that you have the best doctor on your team-the Great Physician is with you (and your dad's medical team) always.

Wendi said...

Oh Monica! My heart is very sad after reading this. My family has been touched my cancer several times. Most recently four years ago when my mom had breast cancer. I will be praying for all of you!

Lisa said...

Prayers are going up right now for you dad and for your family. My God bring you peace.

Lisa

Leanne said...

I'm so sorry...I will be praying for your dad, Monica. Leanne

Monica said...

Praying for a precious Thanksgiving for all and that God will strengthen your whole family through one another. This is the news that every daughter dreads- I'm sorry.

Blessings,
Monica

Elizabeth said...

After 4 years of my dad battling cancer, I highly recommend this book both for you as well as for your mom and dad: http://www.bookschristian.com/se/product/books/Michael_S_Barry/A_Reason_for_Hope/90101/A_Reason_for_Hope_Hardcover.html

May God meet you in this time, like none before.

patty w said...

Monica

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Such a hard thing to face and especially now with the holidays here. Know that you are loved!

{{{{HUGS}}}}

Leah in Iowa said...

Both you and Carrie will be in my prayers, as well as your parents.

Monica said...

I'm so sorry for what you are dealing with right now. I will pray that the Lord's hand will be seen in this time and that His peace will surround you and your family.

My mom overcame liver cancer two years ago. While it was a very hard time for us, it brought she and my dad closer to our Father.

Kimberlee said...

Monica,
I am so sorry to hear your news. I am sure you are filled with so many emotions! I will be praying for your dad, for you and for your whole family throughout this journey.

Home School Dawn said...

You and your father are on my prayer list. I will be praying for healing and for extra measures of grace for you and your family during this difficult time. God bless you and keep you.

angela said...

I'm so sorry to hear about this Monica. I will definitely be in prayer for you and your family.
Angela

Anonymous said...

Dear Monica, I am so very sorry! My heart is with you and your family. I know the sting of cancer. I hate it. I use the *h* word rarely, but this disease qualifies. I WILL pray for you and my family will too. You are loved and have much support out here in blogland. Know that this does not take God by surprise, and HE is faithful even when we don't understand. Look and lean to our precious Shepherd. Again Monica, you are loved and your family prayed for. tammyp

Christy@MercyEveryMorning said...

Monica, I just saw this on Carrie's blog. I am so sorry. God has promised that He will never leave you or forsake you, and that underneath are the everlasting arms. Praying for you all.

Blessings!
Christy

Sheila said...

I'm so sorry. Your family will be in my prayers.

Amy said...

I am so sorry, Monica. If you ever need to take, I am here. The same thing has happened to us. They found a lump in my grandmother's throat this week and biopsied it and it came back abnormal. She is undergoing surgery (probably this week) and we will have to begin her radiation therapy. I never thought this would happen to us.

I have no words except I am so sorry. It is devastating news for the holidays.

I love you and I am praying for your family...

*carrie* said...

walking with you, dear sister. love, me

RT said...

Oh goodness. I'll pray for you this morning, Monica, and especially for healing for your Dad.

Michelle said...

I'm so sorry, Monica.

I will be praying for your dad, and also for peace for you, Carrie, and your mom as you go through this time.

Paige said...

I will pray the prayer that never fails.
What is your dads name?
Paige

Amy said...

Saying a prayer for you now...

Anonymous said...

I will keep your family in my prayers during this new and difficult journey that you are all about to embark on.

Amy said...

Prayers for your sweet family!

Tracey McBride said...

Dear Monica, Our prayers and best thoughts are for a perfect healing for your father. Someone once told me, when I was in a similar situation, that "Fear is the opposite of faith...so fear not...keep the faith."

Blessings and miracles to you and yours.

Warmly,
Tracey

All things bright and beautiful... said...

Monica - Carrie and all your family - you are in my prayers.

Krista said...

Monica,

I'm so sorry. We'll be praying for you and your family!

gail said...

monica,
just saw this on carrie's blog. i am so, so sorry. cancer stinks. my mom has battled colon cancer and breast cancer. for now she is well, but it still stinks.

i am praying for you and your family during this difficult time.

big hug! gail

Anonymous said...

Monica I am so so sorry about your dad. I went through the same thing with my dad. May God keep you and give you strength through this hard time. I Peter 5:7. Cast all of your care upon him for he careth for you.
Shelby

Blue Castle said...

So sorry to hear this. I will be praying. God is faithful.

kristin said...

You and your family have been in our prayers since we learned of the news through Carrie. We are so sorry to hear that you need to travel this road! But you can be confident that this is the perfect plan for your family and that the Lord will use this, in ways that are unknown at this point perhaps. My heart is heavy with yours, but I pray you will enjoy the strength and comfort of our Savior in these days to come!

Rose said...

I am so, so sorry! I wish I had some words that could ease your fear and pain. What I do have are prayers and I will keep you & your family well prayed-for.

God's peace....

Jolene said...

Monica,

I'm so sorry to hear this news. I know what you are going through both my parents have had cancer. My dad had a kidney removed because of it. I will be praying for you and your father. Just remember God is ALWAYS there for you and your family.

Hugs, Jolene

Tamara said...

Praying for you and your family, right now. He is our peace.

Beth said...

Monica! Just sending prayers of healing for your Dad and the peace of the Holy Spirit to wash over you.

HUGS!

Beth

Katie said...

Dear Monica,

I will add your father and your whole dear family to my prayer list. May the Lord give your family special strength, wisdom, healing, and comfort during this new journey together.

Blessings,
Katie

Kether said...

Monica,
Our family traveled this road just this time last year. My heart is heavy for you and your family. I think our faith is the only thing that got us through that time. I'm praying that the Lord will guide your father's doctors and caregivers and that you will all see His hand in this journey.

joysmallpack said...

Dear Monica,
I am so very sorry to hear what is newly facing your dad and your family. We had cancer hit our family three years ago when my mom battled it. It is huge, and I know how it can hit like a ton of bricks and overwhelm-- it can permeate so many unrelated thoughts in just a single hour or day. I know you care so much, and each person in the family is affected. I used to love reading your mom's comments on your blog- they reminded me so much of my mom and the special relationship I, too, have with mine. What a sweet encourager your mom seems to be. I know you'll be caring so much about her too as she walks through this with your dad. Yes, I will pray for your Dad and his treatment, and for all of you in the family as individuals as you go through this. What a blessing that you are amazingly already being inspired by your dad's attitude in this. Isaiah 26:3 is a favorite. Not always easy, but so amazing. You are all being prayed for. God bless you and bring you peace and comfort.

Wendy said...

Monica,
I know exactly what you must be feeling! My Dad was diagnosed with cancer. This time last year, Dad was going through chemo and radiation. The thoughts that go through your mind...the doubts...the fear! Goodness, I had never known such fear before! The only way I got through it was to keep the promises of God going through my mind. Each time fear or doubt crept into my mind, I would repeat God's promises of healing. Once repeating...sometimes out loud to drown out the voices of fear in my mind, I would feel a peace that was beyond words!
My Dad is cancer free and has been for almost one year now. He too was diagnosed with a cancer that was aggressive (he smoked). God will use this situation to strengthen you and your family in ways you would never think possible. My prayers are with you and your family! God bless!

Anonymous said...

Monica,
I am so sorry to hear this. 5 years ago I lost my mom to cancer. The most important thing I can tell you is that the Lord knows it all, and He will keep you in His arms. My Mom fought for 3 years and in the end I was almost happy to see her go and know that she wasn't in pain anymore. I still miss her everyday, but I know she is waiting for me in Heaven and I will see her again. I would really encourage you to find a cancer support group they have many different kinds, but find one with the same kind of cancer as your Dad. They can really help you also. Your family is in my prayers and remember to take it all to the LORD.

beingmolded said...

Monica, I know all too well what you are feeling and not wanting to consider. Rest in His embrace and know that you will be in my prayers.
God bless~Cindy

Angela said...

I'm so sorry about your dad.

Milehimama said...

Oh Monica,
I'm so sorry. I just went through this also - this summer my dad was dx with Stage 3 melanoma.

But God is good and he is better now!

We are scrimping and saving to visit for Christmas this year, too. We have many things that we NEED but have made family a priority this season.

BTW, as a result of my dad's dx I found many links to many studies for alternative and supportive treatments. Let me know if you have a specific need and I'll send it your way!

May you be filled with His mercy,
Milehimama

mary bailey said...

Monica, you and your family will be in my prayers. Praise God that He has equipped you to view things from His perspective.

The Taskers said...

Dear Monica,
I am sorry to hear about your father's diagnosis and will prayer for healing for him and strength for your whole family. Our Heavenly Father took my father Home 6 1/2 years ago after a very long battle with thyroid cancer - it gave our family a new perspective on life and living.
In Him,
Jennifer (a faithful reader)

Anonymous said...

Monica,

I'm so sorry for your bad news. All of you will be in my prayers.

Valerie

Sharon D. said...

Monica,

I am so sorry about the news you received. But God is sovereign and we don't know what His plan is. I love the verse you quoted from Isaiah. It is one that I cling to in times of distress.

I am praying for your Dad, you and your family as I know from experience it is a tough road. I went through this almost ten years ago with my father. I am so very thankful that he knew the Lord.

As I said you are all in my prayers. Prayers for healing, comfort, strength and peace.


Sharon D.

A Frugal Friend said...

My heart goes out to you and your family. I have been there....took care of my mom when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. My family's story did not turn out the way we wanted, but GOD has been there through it all. I lost my mom 3 yrs ago and it has forever changed our lives. One thing though.....BECAUSE of cancer I spent more time with my mom. I saw her every week before cancer and talked to her daily, but the cancer let me take care of her and spend extra time. Good can come from cancer.

One thing I wish we would have done in hindsight is even though we found a doctor we liked, we should have gotten a second and third opinion. Never hurts.

I know how your heart must ache, but keep praying and know that God is in control of it all.

Joy of Frugal Living said...

I am so sorry to hear this, Monica. I am praying for your family.

Jennifer

Angela - Life w/ Two Busy Boys said...

Thinking and praying for you and your family!!

Elise said...

Oh Monica,
I am so sorry to hear your news. I will pray for healing for your dad. Did you know my dad has cancer too?? We just found out a few months ago. I assume he is far less healthier due to bad personal choices. I believe God can bring them both through this and my dad to personal salvation as well.
Elise

angie said...

Monica-
It is so hard, even as a grown daughter, to see our fathers weak. For so long, we have looked to them as our pillars.
I am praying for your father, your mother, your family and Carrie's family.
Angie

Christy said...

Monica ... warm hugs for you, your dad, and your family. I am praying.

Jenny said...

Monica, All I can do is offer my love , prayers and support. Like I did with your sister. I have been in this postion. I had the honor of caring for my father in law. Who was like a father to me. In his final days. My your family have peace in your hearts.

Bella @ Lil Daisies said...

Oh, Monica. This is gut wrenching, heart aching news. I will be sure to keep your family in our prayers here on the west coast.

Blessings,
Bella

~aj~ said...

Monica, I'm so so sorry. Praying that your father will beat this horrible disease and will continue to keep his positive outlook along the way.

Ginger said...

Monica, I am praying for you and your dad. I've been there with the "what if's" myself. I love you.

Bay said...

I will keep your Dad in prayer. So sorry to hear about this. Enjoy your week "off" and have a good Thanksgiving...Love, Bay

petrii said...

Monica,
I am so sad to hear this news. My mother has battled cancer for some time now.

This is a difficult season, but God is able ~~ OH YES HE IS!!!!! Thank you for sharing what your heart will allow at this point in the journey.

Blessings to you and your family,
Dawn

Ginger said...

Monica,

I am so sorry to hear of your dad's illness. I cannot even imagine your heart just now. I do know that our God is mighty and He can heal, bodies and hearts. He gives wisdom and He is hope. I will keep your family in my prayers, knowing the LORD will use even our heart ache for His glory.
I read your blog and your sister's faithfully and receive such a blessing from the two sites. Thank you for sharing your faith and family with us.

Robert said...

We will be keeping your father and your family in our prayers. May you all feel God's comfort and support through this time.

Erin

Anonymous said...

Dear Monica, Carrie, and family,

I am so sorry to hear this. :( I cannot imagine how you're feeling.
While I am speechless over this news, I pray that you will find comfort in God's loving arms and in His Word.

Praying for all of you,
Andrea L.

Anonymous said...

Dear Monica, Carrie, and family,

I am so sorry to hear this. :( I cannot imagine how you're feeling.
While I am speachless, I pray that you will find comfort in God's loving arms and in His Word.

Praying for all of you,
Andrea L.

Dana D said...

Dear Monica,
I hate the 'c' word, too! My mom is only recently in remission from lymphoma. I hated having conversations with people that required me to use the 'c' word. I still don't like to even say the word! Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. And, that I will be praying for your dad and your family!

Karen said...

Adding my prayers to all these others. My mom has been battling an agressive cancer for 4 years now. There have been times we almost lost her but God has been so gracious to us. I pray the same for your family.

It's a difficult road to travel but God's mercies are new every morning. Great is His faithfulness!

Anonymous said...

Oh, Monica!

How I hate to hear the "c" word! And I hate when it strikes our favorite people like family & friends! Praying that God will give your dad's drs wisdom, courage and strength to ya'll as a family and healing for your dad!

With love,
~Eunice

Ruth said...

Monica,
I don't know if you will see this comment because there are so many here but I just want you to know that I will hold your father in prayer. The Lord will never leaves us nor forsakes us. When we go through the valley, He is there with us. Lean on Him for strength.
Blessings,
Ruth

Stacey said...

Oh Monica - I am praying. God's will be done and His comfort be upon you all!

Tilly said...

Monica, I'm a long time lurker on your blog...I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. My prayers will be with him and your family during these times.
~Mackenzie

Sheila said...

So sorry to hear this. We lost my sweet mother in law shortly after our marriage. I've known people that make, it, and people that don't. As difficult as it is to lose someone, there is a sweet comfort given as well to help us bear it.
Please know your father is in our prayers.
Wishing you and your family comfort and peace during this transition.

Heather said...

Excellent scripture, Monica. I will be praying this for you and your family.

Lisar said...

Joining in the heavenly and it would appear, earthly throng praying for you and your whole family at this time and that God would meet your family's and especially your Dad's every need..

mom said...

Thank you to all for your kind words of encouragement and for your prayers. Blessings, Monica's mom

Rachel said...

Monica, I am so sorry! I pray God will surround you all with His peace.

LynnMarie said...

Monica,
I am so very sorry that the "C" has come to your family. God knows too and feels for you as well. My prayers are will you all.

betty said...

I´m so sorry Monica, I can understand you cause I lived this situation with my mother, isn´t easy but you must be strong and positive. We´ll pray for you. God bless you!
Thanks for your blog really is a familiar blog and makes me happy, really your blog fills me with peace. Take care! BICOS

Michelle said...

Prayers for you and your family.

Sugar Coma said...

as common as cancer is, that never makes it any easier for one to deal with. my father in law also just found out that his cancer is back. he is not a believer which makes it much more difficult to bare. i was thinking that your father is a believer - i pray he is.
praying for you now...

Michelle said...

That word is a very ugly one. I am praying for all of you. May God keep you in His loving embrace and guide your ways and calm your fears.

Brandy said...

I know you do not know me, but I have great news!! I am 24 years old and I was diagnosed with Hogkins Stage 3A. Even though my cancer can be cured, it was a scare road. I have had to take Chemo and although I have not lost all of my hair, I have very little. We took our concerns to the Lord and I can now say that I have been healed. I had three locations of cancer, one is gone and the other two are there but they are non-active. Belive that God can heal!! Brandy

AmyG said...

Monica, you are in my prayers....Trust God and know that He has this under His eye.

Just Jenny said...

Thinking of you and what you are going thru at this time. Last year my dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer - but we did not accept this diagnosis and went before the Lord with our request. He is healed with no issues now.

Deut. 7:13-15 and Exod. 23:25

You should start doing communion and accepting God's body and blood - Joseph Prince has an excellent series explaining communion and why it should be taken daily specifically for healing.

I will keep you in my prayers.

robin said...

Dear Monica,

I have been following your blog for about 6 months, checking in randomly and getting to "know" you this way. I admire you. I am encouraged and inspired each and every time I visit here. Being a mother of 4, ages 11 down to age 2.5, we homeschool and we love the Lord and follow His ways as best we can daily, along with you and others.

I am so sorry to hear of your Dad's cancer diagnosis. I don't have much to say except that I will pray for you and your family. You have given me so much by way of your heart here, it's the least I can do for you. May the Giver of All Good Things be with you tonight and tomorrow and each day following until He returns to take us home.

Be blessed today. Love, Robin

Grace, Hope and Joy said...

I am so sorry. Will be praying for your Dad and your whole family. I enjoy your blog so much.

Katy said...

I am so sorry I didn't see this before Monica!!!
I am so tired of Cancer..aren't you? I wish it would just go away. I hate that it just grabs anyone..at anytime. It's so frustrating and sad. I will be praying for your dad and your whole family. I pray he can beat this cancer and it ends up making you all stronger!

It is so impressive and encouraging to hear your dad has such a positive attitude about it though! Joy and cheerfulness through times of trials are such a wonderful witness to those around him. Please keep us updated on things!
love and prayers!
Katy

Mrs Smiley Joe said...

Praying for you guys!!!

momstheword said...

I never thought we'd be dealing with cancer either. My dad had lung cancer and beat it, although he passed away last year due to his heart giving out (the smoking had damaged it, not the cancer). He did beat the cancer. They have so much better treatment now days.

My brother has terminal cancer, and he is very upbeat too, for the most part. He's a fighter I guess. I am sharing this not to depress you but to let you know that there are lots of us who have family members facing this, so you're not alone.

It is o.k. to feel shock and overwhelmed at first. It's not something you want to have to deal with. It is especially hard when our parents get sick, because they are who WE depend on (next to God and husbands). They are not supposed to get sick, right?

But God is always there to walk with you and give you His strength. I will pray for your dad and for all of you.

Lori said...

Monica,
I read your blog all the time, but hardly leave a comment. I'm sorry to hear about your Father. I'll be praying for him. And for your family, that God will show grace on you all.

Michelle-This One's for the Girls said...

Hi Monica--

I still read your blog all the time but rarely take the time to comment. Just wanted you to know that I will pray for your dad when I read your blog.

And may the peace of Jesus rule your heart.

Love, Michelle

...they call me mommy... said...

Praying for your family!

Rambling Girl said...

So sorry to hear this Monica! I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Beth

noahandlylasmommi said...

I am so sorry to hear that. I will be praying for your dad!

Katrina said...

I so so sorry to hear this. I pray daily people won't have to have this word enter their world. I so understand how your world just stands still. ((( )))'s
You are in my prayers
Katrina of Bags for Brent
Wife of Stage 4 Colon Cancer Survior

Tammy said...

So sorry for this news. Is your dad saved? I pray so or that you get opportunity to reach him through this to glorify God. The cancer list is long at our church and we are a very young church of 1 1/2 years and only 35 members. It is a very scary word. I very much enjoy your crafty stuff.

Rochelle W said...

Monica,

I am just an occasional viewer of your site, and I hope that you have time to read this!!!

If it hasn't already been suggested to you, CALL THE AMERICAN CANCER SOCIETY!!! They are there to HELP families with many different needs, including financial assistance.

Rochelle W.

Tara said...

Monica,

Somehow I missed this post earlier. I am so very, very sorry that you and your family are going through this. My heart breaks so deeply for you. I will be praying for your dad and your family that you will experience our Lord's amazing peace and comfort. I will also pray Philippians 2:27 over your dad:

"For indeed he was sick to the point of death, but God had mercy on him, and not on him only but also on me (you), so that I (you) would not have sorrow upon sorrow."

My sweet dad passed away just over a year ago. He had stage 4 brain cancer. However, he lived much longer than his first doctor said he would. He gave him less than 6 months and he lived 4 years, fighting the cancer the entire time (he ended up transfering his treatment to a brain cancer specialist, a neuro-oncologist, up in Denver. Something he wished he had done at the beginning, as he was just treated by a general oncologist here in the Springs).

I can imagine that what you are going through is so hard. I'm so glad that you are able to spend a few weeks in Colorado! What a blessing that will be to you and your dad (not to mention your dear mom and your sweet littles!)

I would love to help your family (and you) in whatever way I can. Meals, babysitting while you're in town if needed, whatever you all need. We had some wonderful ladies who came up along side our family while my dad was sick and I would love to be able to do that for others as well.

Again, you are in my prayers! I'm writing your dad in my prayer journal so that I will be reminded to pray for him every day! May God bless your time in Colorado!

Email me if you need anything at all Monica! tara_davis20@hotmail.com