I'm reminded of what my former pastor used to say about facing situations in life. "You can go through it or you can grow through it." I think God would want me to choose to grow through my experiences and thrive in the calling He has given me.
I do not believe He wants me to just survive day to day. Not that it would be easy either way - but to just get by or just get through something defeats the purpose doesn't it?
Not only that, but I have found that survival mode can be very self-serving. It is so easy to think about how this season of life is tiring and hard on me. I'm always in demand, someone always needs something or needs to stay out of something. Why am I allowing myself to be so focused on how hard this season is for me instead of what a treasure this season is?
It seems I can start the day absolutely determined to not get frustrated, not lose my cool. I pray. I determine not to allow things to get me down easily. Yet, consistently by the time lunch is rolling around - I am very quiet. This is a sign that I could easily lose it with my children - which I think is why I often just pull inside - as a safety mechanism for losing my patience with my children.
Why is it that it feels like the more I give and the more willingly I give it - the less satisfied they are? They are always wanting more.
As a mom of young children, I need to die to myself and be faithful to the calling God has placed on my life. His will for me is to be home with my children - He blessed our family with them - now, that is my calling.
I know that part of my struggle is having very high expectations and that to thrive, I am going to have to lower my expectations. Not too low - but lower than very high! Any ideas on how to do this? It is easy to say that I need to lower my expectations, but an entirely different matter to actually do it.
I know that if I need help - I need to ask for it and then if it is offered, I need to accept it. I don't know about you - but this is very hard for me. It is very hard to ask for help and very hard to accept help. Part of me feels so guilty in asking or needing help because I feel like God blessed us with these children and I should be able to care for them.
One thing that often helps me when I am experiencing a negative attitude or am starting to feel discontent is to keep a thankful journal. When I am actively looking for several things to write down each day - it gets easier as the days go on to come up with more things to be thankful for and I start seeing little things that God is doing during our days.
I need to keep my mothering in perspective. I know this is just a season - it doesn't always feel like it, but everyone says these days will pass more quickly than I can imagine and I will wish them back. I want to redeem this time and to enjoy this time. To realize it is only for a season and to take the opportunities this season holds.
I want to be a willing servant to my family.
Mark 10:45, "For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many."Pray! Ask for a changed perspective and for God's help in thriving and growing rather than enduring and surviving. And, for cultivation of the Fruit of the Spirit in my life.
Choose an attitude of gratefulness for the calling God has placed on my life, for this season He has me in and for how He wants to shape me through all of this.
Train my thinking to focus on that which is, "true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable - excellent or praiseworthy."
Do not be overwhelmed by everything the future holds, trust the future to Him and live today.
Your turn - do you feel like you are surviving or thriving in the calling God has placed on your life? Share your thoughts on how we can choose to thrive instead of giving in to selfishly just surviving!
After I finished typing this post, I uploaded the photo at the top. And, it got me thinking even more about this topic. When you see a plant you can tell if it is just surviving or thriving. What you see on the outside is indicative of what is going on inside the plant, with its roots, etc. Wow - there's a lot to think about in that when you relate it to mothering!